Handling negativity

[lionking]

let me tell you that you brokemy heart, Kiwi. I really feel sorry for you. You say you were adopted by a motehr who was not yours? which means that your mom was dead, adding to your trauma?

[reynoldbot]

"Shun" sounded like the right word when I was typing it but when I think about it it must not be. Ahh, the word I was thinking of was "scold." Sorry for the mixup, honest mistake. This is what has upset me:

So get your thoughts right

"So you want me to change my thoughts until they aren't upset?"

No, it's you who should want to do that, although I certainly think it would be an excellent idea.

I told you the only way to not be "upset' about what you wrote would be to change my opinion to match yours. I asked you if that's what you were really asking, and you said yes. I'm offended that you would suggest changing your opinion in favor of being impolite. Then you told me I had emotional issues and tried to peddle some self-help philosophy on me.

I think the age difference is a big factor here. I am still in college, and when I argue I argue passionately. Most of the members on this forum are middle aged and older and are more settled in their ways. You guys all probably have an easier time of letting something go when it bothers you, but this is a forum for debate and I choose to argue when I disagree with something.

It's not even that you were accusing me of being excessively harsh, lashing out or getting enraged. You were accusing me of having any emotional response to your argument. You cherrypicked words out of one of my posts and told me I was wrong for using them. I won't stand for it. I don't care if every person on this forum says I'm wrong.